There is nothing wrong with you. You are dealing with issues that you couldn't anticipate. Go to the doctor, go to a counselor, do what you need to do, but know that this will get better. This will get to be more fun. You love each other, and you can get through this. And remember, God is not punishing you for anything. God is with you. God wants you to have an awesome sex life just as much as you do. Don't stop talking to him about how you feel.

I know this seems like a downer, but I wish anyone had said this to me as a newlywed. If it helps one anonymous person, I'm glad I said it.

In the buddy cop movie Bad Boys, Will Smith is listening to his partner's marriage problems, and suddenly cuts in with, "Yo, marriage is easy. You've only got one woman to please." Or something very much like that.

Obviously marriage isn't easy, and I should probably point out that I'm not actually married. However, in my experience, making your priority pleasing that one woman has worked out rather well.

My wife is an engineer. I'm a pharmacist. My dad gave me a mortar and pestle and my wife a compass. I don't have a clue what he said to us that day. I would suggest that what you share is likely to have a bigger impact on those attending than those participating in the ceremony. I'm not sure if that's advice for you or something you can share, but it's my two cents…

"I was wrong"
"I apologize."
"I love you."

My father was unable to attend my sister's wedding, and I was asked to fill his shoes by providing the toast to the bride. I was single at the time, and I wanted to provide them some advice on how to have a happy marriage…so i asked around. These are true:

From a man at a coffee shop, "If the dish towels are marked HIS and HIS…don't marry her."

Then i asked a couple from the church that had been married for over 60 years. I asked them seperately what the key to a happy marriage was, they both answered that "they married the most amazing person in the world."

So my advice to them was to keep right on believing that you have married the most amazing, incredible, perfect person for you in the world…even when they aren't acting like that person.

Couldn't agree more. The church who were there for us nearly 10 years when we got married have all but washed their hands of us because of our reaction to our infertility. We can't have children through no fault of our own but I honestly think we would have had more support if one of us had been unfaithful. I suppose they consider our disappointment, diagnosed depression and suicide attempts to be selfish and unholy. I feel that we have been punished (by God?) twice, firstly in losing our future, and secondly by losing our Church family, friends and finally faith. I love my husband more than ever but we are both so alone now.

A couple was concerned that they were fighting too much, and speaking in haste, when it might be better to more carefully consider their words.

So the wife made the suggestion that they keep a big jug up on the fireplace mantle, and in it, each time they were angry with the other person, they were to put it in writing, and then place the missive in the jug. Hopefully, this would keep the open conflict at bay.

They would then take the notes out, once a year, and go through them, and see how many of the petty squabbles, as well as the serious issues, had resolved themselves, and then were to discuss the ones that hadn't been resolved.

The months went by, and the fighting really diminished, but they would see one another frequently leaving messages in the jug.

At the end of the first year, they sat down to discuss the notes in the jug.

There were many instances of fights and arguments that the wife had recorded.

But, every single one of the husband's notes to the wife said, "I love you."

AARRrrggghhhhh….

[This so reminds me of something my husband might do.]

[I think this story resonates with me so much because I frequently lack grace, and resort to the Law.]

The point that the story illustrates so beautifully is, as the Bible tells us, "Love covers a multitude of sins."