Comments on: #622. The Pastor’s Kid.

By: another pk

another pk — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 04:14:52 +0000

this was so true i almost cried. the one liner at the end of 3 hit me deep

By: Katie

Katie — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 06:27:01 +0000

Duuuude…I know like ten of those at my Christian college. Hahahahaha.

By: Jennwith2ns

Jennwith2ns — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 18:27:39 +0000

Like Ben at the beginning of these comments (I never jump in here quickly enough to have the stamina to read all the ones that precede mine), I am a PK/MK. I'm just chiming in because of that pedigree, not because I can think of any interesting stories off the bat. Most of them happen to other types of pastor's kids–I was some mix of replica and regular . . .

By: Rich Bradford

Rich Bradford — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 20:25:37 +0000

I am not a PK, but this had me in tears. My senior pastor has 4 sons. Our family pastor has 2 sons, and our youth pastor has 2 sons (preschool and toddler). You've got me in trouble. I will never be able to look at those kids the same again.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 13:53:09 +0000

PK here too. I guess I was mostly a "regular," but I always had some rebel undertones as I was such a people pleaser but then hated being in the "fishbowl" that is the life of a PK.

I agree with Ben though- an R-word for a Stunt Puller would be good b/c this was SO me. Perhaps it was a tamer version of the Rebel. I was the girl running around the church sticking red thumb tacks on noses of photos of new members who had joined our church….filling out false names on the visitors registration card and using the directory to randomly pick out numbers so that someone from the "Outreach Team" would call an unsuspecting member and ask to speak to "Ben Dover" or "Helen Highwater" (and yes, people actually fell for this). I had more practical jokes up my sleeve b/c it was much easier to focus on that than to focus on how much I started to resent being in the limelight…

By: Josh

Josh — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 07:08:51 +0000

i gotta say as a PK myself i was a crazy kid in my early teens, never listen to my parents and get into all kinds of trouble, u get the picture.

But as i grew up i suddenly change one year, prob wen i was 19 and ofcos im not perfect, in fact quite far from it but for sure better than what i was before

By: iohannes fac totum

iohannes fac totum — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 02:00:06 +0000

I'm with LJ. The Chameleon should be up there... the kid with no personality because he/she never got a chance to find it.

I imagine PKs had similar pressure on them, but in smaller degrees. My pastor's kids were already grown when we were kids, so there was us. we sat on the front row, wore suits, and were perfect.

The Anon. last writer hit it well. Our church wasn't real small, but my fam was up to the teeth in christian ministry. Christian school, no real life outside church, and a solid, romantic infatuation with everything ungodly.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 20:36:01 +0000

How about those of us that weren't PKs, but might as well have been?

In our small church, the PKs were graduated and gone by my sophomore year and we (the DKs) got to be the surrogates.

Need a substitute SS teacher? Need someone to play on the worship team, run the sound board, or run the computer overhead projector system that none of the adults could figure out? Need someone to be the Childrens Church assistant, choir member, or actor for the Christmas play? Need someone to answer your bible-related questions (correctly), a youth group "core member", or nursery worker? Well, just call our family!

No joke... between the four of us kids, we did all that and more. I'm sure I forgot some because most of the things that were mentioned were things that I was "volunteered" for.

On top of that, we were expected to be perfect examples of "good Christian teenagers". In lieu of a PK to hold up as an example of how their children should behave, parents would use us. As bad as we may have had it, I still think that PKs face slightly more scrutiny. That said, no child should have to go through life afraid to try things and make mistakes because others are watching. I wish PKs were allowed to have more of a life with out the expectations of a whole church to carry on their shoulders.

By: glamazini

glamazini — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 18:00:15 +0000

6B almost killed me! LOL!!! *whew*

so i'm a PK (recent) and so his hubby. I'm a D reformed C. And he's a D.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 16:23:25 +0000

PREACHER's Daugthers, I am one of those…and we get the worst raps. I think people were waiting for me to wind up pregnant or find me making out with some boy behind the church. They thought we partied hard. When I would tell people that I was a pastor's daguther, they would be like, OH you must be wild…as if I was going to pull Jello Shots out of my purse or something. And luckily I did not fit into those stereotypes, only by the grace of God. I did date my fair share of boys at church and then I would break up with them and they would never come back to church. I was quickly told to stop dating boys at church by my parents because our attendance was going down ;o)I think they were kidding, or maybe not. Pastor's kids can often be found going to sleep in church and my dad is the pastor of a country church with really hard wooden pews. My parents were really cool and still let us go out on the weekends and go to school dances, things like that. But we always had to go to church in the morning, no matter what time we got home and more than once I fell asleep and cracked my head on the hard pew. This was a great topic because I think people have a ton of different stereotypes for PK's